The day my sister died it left a permanent scar.
I remember it like it was yesterday, though it was 21 years ago next month...
June 8th, 1999...
I was emotionally broken...
My sister was emotionally broken...
Both of us were in marriages in which we were experiencing infidelity.
My sister was getting telephone calls almost daily from people who "thought she should know" what her husband was doing.
I had listened to voice messages from two different women expressing their "feelings" for my husband.
That morning I told my husband that it was over and that I was no longer going to be with him.
That night my sister died... she permanently left her husband.
But she also left her 4-year old son, my mother and father, me, my children, her friends...
We both checked out that day but in different ways.
A Greater Purpose
My experiences of that day, June 8th, 1999, is profoundly connected to why I do what I do today... coaching women to RECLAIM their PowHER and Awaken to the Divinity of their Femininity.
Several weeks before my sister died she expressed to me in a conversation how tired she was... she was experiencing intense heartbreak and struggling with life.
Emotionally she was drained. Mentally she was drained.
I was drained as well but I was always the "rock" that everyone depended on to help them be stronger.
My strength IS my strength... it always has been. I've always had power within but I had to learn how to harness the power from a spiritual perspective so that I could walk fully in my purpose and Divine calling. Because to be honest with you there was a time when I didn't feel powerful at all.
Today, I am so passionate about what I do in helping women to come on the other side of rejection and grief because it's the nucleus of my story... It's my heart and soul story.
I'm tempted to wish that I could have played a role in keeping my sister here but her story, my story, the connecting of our stories and the lessons I have learned, are what propelled me to walk in my purpose powerfully...
To help women RECLAIM and walk in their Divine Feminine PowHER.
To teach women how to Awaken to the Divinity of their Femininity and transform pain into purpose.
To show women how to turn their story upside down and use it as a platform from which they can help themselves and others.
The Reality of Grief
I work with women who are struggling with grief and rejection:
Grief and rejection affect us at the soul level and are feelings that we will all experience at some point in our life time... it's inevitable and a part of the life experience.
How we process the grief will determine how we come through it.
Truth is some people stay stuck in grief because they don't know how to process it in a healthy way.
With grief comes varying emotions...
Anger, depression, sadness, fear, anxiety, un-forgiveness, loneliness, despondency, desperation, to name a few.
Because grief is a big part of my story, I know that the weight of loss is extremely heavy. Grief shows up on many different levels but it MUST be acknowledged, confronted and processed in order to be healed.
Eventually it's important to see grief for what it serves as... Sacred work for the soul.
Grateful for the Grief
My sister's passing ushered me fully into my willingness to connect with my spiritual, intuitive gift in a way that was no longer scary or overwhelming for me.
See, my gift of intuition and spirit connection was evident when I was a child, but to be honest with you, I was terrified of it.
I now embrace it fully and as a result have been able to help thousands of clients process their fears, rejection, abandonment, and limiting belief systems to come out victoriously on the other side.
Honoring my sister by walking in my PowHER and helping other women who are struggling mentally and emotionally to do the same, is the power behind what I do.
Today I live on purpose and I live with purpose.
This month, May 6th, would have been my sister's 50th birthday. She died at the age of 29.
Two weeks ago spirit mandated me to create a program to help women (and men) transcend the pain of grief by understanding how honoring our emotions, fears and doubts as spiritual opportunities can connect you to the lessons that the experience of grief serves as it pertains to your Divine purpose.
Grief is inescapable, it doesn't discriminate and is an integral part of our soul work.
How I Can Help You...
If you are struggling with grief, rejection, or heart break I want to invite you to schedule an alignment session with me.
My coaching sessions will support you in...
If you are struggling with mental and emotional turmoil over:
Then I want to invite you to connect with me. I understand the pain of grief and loss but more importantly I understand, and can teach you, how to process it to move through to the other side.
I am Denika Carothers, Life Coach, author, healer and Mental and Emotional Wellness specialist. I help my clients transcend the pain and trauma of rejection, grief, abandonment, loss and abuse.