Whether out loud, or in the thoughts of your mind, I am certain that this is a question that you have asked at some point in your life.
The truth is that most of us ask this question of life. I know that when I was in my 20's, in a dysfunctional, unhappy marriage and raising my children as a single mother I asked this question often.
Then when my marriage finally ended and my baby sister, who was my best friend, died in a car accident at 29 years old, I felt like my life had exploded from within. This question was at the beginning of my every day and at the end of my every night.
This question begins as a thought and is often connected to real difficulty in life.
If you have ever experienced any of the following, you have asked this question at some point in your life...
Let me explain...
Our relationships are a huge factor in our lives, both our personal and our professional relationships.
Often, when we feel bogged down by life, or in life, our relationships are often either the cause, or neglected and affected in some way.
When our relationships aren't going right, our thoughts tend to be all over the place. And often we don't realize how everything in our life is connected to EVERYTHING in our life.
When it's not going right, we're not thinking right. When we're not thinking right, it's not going right.
But this is the thing...
Whenever you say, or accept, that life is hard what you are essentially doing is coming into agreement with struggle and difficulty taking place in your life.
I know it may sound complicated but it's really pretty simple.
But the thing is that, the difficulty, or "hard" that we feel is often connected to a relationship of some kind.
Some of your relationships will cause you more heartache than joy, more pain than pleasure, more stress than security, and more tears than laughter. These types of relationships are hard and can make your life feel really difficult.
And though these kinds of relationships bring no fulfillment, no amazing, no feelings of connection and no power to you... they can bring power FOR you when you understand their purpose.
Truthfully, these relationships are the most powerful relationships.
Let me explain it a little better in this video.
Still bound to the emotion of the relationship?
Most people desire to be free and they feel that the greatest achievement in life is freedom.
Unfortunately most people feel that they have lost their sense of freedom in some respect.
But do you know what's even better than being free?
Being free means that you are no longer attached to it (whatever it is.)
But when you are liberated, you are no longer BOUND by it.
Many are free from the relationship... divorced, separated, broken up. However, they are still bound to the emotion of the relationship... the pain, the anger, the disappointment, the un-forgiveness, the depression, the insecurity, and the regret.
Your soul cannot move forward when it is bound to the past.
You can't journey to a new adventure, you can't find your way to peace, true joy will always remain out of reach if you're bound to an emotion that's keeping you stuck in the past.
Your soul can't even dream about peace and happiness because it's seeing the future through the lens of what has happened.
You're having difficulty controlling your thoughts because you're stuck in your mind. And the only way you can begin to attain liberation is to be still and know your Divine Essence - your Goddess within.
When you learn to live in the now, you liberate yourself from the past and free yourself to create an amazing future.
You will be able to see possibilities you've never seen before.
Isn't that exciting?
When you live in the present moment you become more happy, you feel more fulfilled, you get excited about your life every day and you are able to become the greatest version of yourself.
Living in guilt, grief, hurt, shame, unworthiness and from a place of "not enough" will keep you stuck in lack. Your focus is constantly on what's missing, limitations, pain, regrets and what's "so hard."
Who really wants that for their life?
Don't believe the "impossible" story that you've read or heard... or, worse yet, told yourself.
It IS possible to be happy...
It IS possible to be free...
It IS possible to feel joy...
It IS possible to move forward...
It IS possible to achieve success...
It IS possible to experience true, pure, genuine love in ALL of your relationships.
There's a greater life awaiting you but if your emotions are keeping you bound, it's going to be difficult for you to discover it.
If you are struggling to create your future because of some emotion that keeps you in the past, you're going to have to come face to face with that emotion.
Are you ready for that something greater in you to awaken and come forth out of your body?
You are able to overcome those emotions and break the addiction to the pain. Yes, I said addiction.
See when you allow something to control you for so long you become fixated to it. That's what addiction is.
rue forgiveness is when you overcome the emotion and take your attention off of the person and the pain. This gives the other person permission to show up differently in your life because you've liberated yourself. This might sound weird but trust me, you want to keep reading if it does.
When this happens, all of a sudden your reality can begin to unfold in mysterious ways.
You open up the possibility door to new opportunities, new relationships, new joy, new money, new blessings... new miracles.
And then you can give thanks for the adversity that served to call out something greater in you.
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You are a living SOUL not a living flesh...
"And the LORD God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul." Genesis 2:7
And this is why most people struggle because they are more intentional on living from their flesh, or their ego, than from their soul.
Let's take a look at Soul Relationships.
Most people are "looking" for their soul mate, but they are really looking for someone who can satisfy, or pacify, their flesh in some way. In most cases, they want someone who can make them "look" good.
See "looking" for your soul mate indicates that you are desiring something that you can SEE externally.
So you draw people to yourself who LOOK the part but don't feel the part.
Oh, Oh... did you just feel something as you read that?
Yes you see it... but you don't FEEL it.
Visually you are stimulated, however within, you later discover that you were taken in by the counterfeit rather than the real deal because you didn't take time to discover your feelings, or worse yet, you didn't honor the feelings that you had.
You know that feeling... the one where something just feels off, or something just doesn't feel right?
Now you find yourself in a place where you realize that this person that you were "looking" for, the one who you are with, does not resonate with who you truly are, and what you are trying to be.
Your expectations, desires, goals, vision and even vibrations clash and then... poof, they are gone, or you are gone within. You no longer feel connected to who you are, and the connection you thought you had with them, left a long time ago.
And you're left to wonder (yet again)... where did I go wrong? What is wrong with me? Why do I always make the wrong choices?
Let me help you out here...
Love is not a "seeing", it's a FEELING...
What most mean when they say that they desire a soul mate, is they desire someone who's going to really love them... they are "looking" for love.
But love is not something that is seen, it's felt...
Love is an energy form that cannot be seen with our human eyes.
Love is felt by the heart and soul.
We are a living soul, not a living flesh. Our soul is the alive aspect of who we are, our internal being, not our fleshly, external self.
Stop looking for love... start FEELING for it.
Your feeling self is who you really are.
Your soul... your intuition... your inner sense is the true you, and the truth of you.
The TRUTH of a Soul Mate...
Your true soul mate will complement your own energy, not repel it...
Your true soul mate will see your fullest potential and support it, not suppress it...
Your true soul mate will assist, and allow for the growth of your soul, not stifle your growth...
Your true soul mate will provide open and honest communication with you, not tell you lies and be closed off...
Maybe that's why common sense has left the building because it's time for us to allow our inner sense to guide us.
When you set the intention to feel for love, rather than look for it, you make room for the person with the energy that will complement your own to attract to you.
It's time for you to distinguish between the desires of your ego versus the needs of your soul.
It's time for you to set intentions regarding love rather than just craving visuals of love, that often prove to be counterfeits. Counterfeit money looks like the real thing, but the right tools will quickly discover the fake.
It's time to stop "looking" for love and allow your soul to feel for love.
If it don't fit, don't force it... just relax and let it go.
It's time for you to release what no longer serves your soul.
So how do you know?
If it's subtracting from you more than it's adding to you... it's a liability... NOT AN ASSET.
When you work with me to Unlock Your Relationship Code you will learn how to release what no longer serves you so you can make room for what will serve your soul.
Read more about that here...
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When you are disconnected within you will always feel incomplete outside of yourself.
Your relationships... your career... your health, your finances and yes even your spiritual connection will all feel like something is missing.
You may look good on the outside and that may last for an hour, or a day, or even a month, but because you don't FEEL good, the pacification of the external beautification... the hair, the makeup, the clothes, the designer shoes and handbags, will eventually wear off and the internal emptiness that you feel in your soul, will again rise to the surface.
You will find yourself spending, yet again, on the "stuff" for another external fix but the internal is where you need to be investing.
Feeling disconnected, empty, unfulfilled, and discontent within, will cause you to make poor choices in your life, especially where it pertains to your relationships.
And can I be honest with you?
You will never be able to connect to what you are seeking outside of yourself if you don't know how to connect to it within yourself.
Rejection begins early in life
All of us, over the age of 13, have on some emotional level, experienced rejection and/or abandonment.
Rejection is a very painful and tricky emotion and it affects you at a soul level. It's like mold... It takes root and it grows and spreads and, consciously, it's affects can go unnoticed.
But it's power is stored in the subconscious mind, in your soul, and it has an effect in creating your life, whether you are aware of it or not.
Rejection is more than just an emotion. It's an energy that is ever moving and this energy takes root in your soul.
Emotions are energy in motion...
Unaddressed emotions become stuck... Stuck emotions become fears... Fears become crippling factors that create obstacles to you living the life that, deep in your soul, you desire to have.
Rejection is a Spiritual Matter
Most people look to a Higher Power, and others, for love and acceptance. However this love and acceptance is never truly felt when you don't know how to love and accept yourself.
When you deal with the issues of rejection and abandonment, you are always seeking external validation... whether from God/Spirit/Source or people.
However, on a deeper level, you never truly feel validated or accepted. Yes, God loves you... this you know... for the bible tells you so...
BUT YOU DON'T KNOW HOW TO LOVE YOURSELF...
And because you don't know how to love yourself, you never truly feel loved by others. Oh you may feel it for a short time, but eventually the doubts creep back in and the feelings of "not enough" resurface.
It's Not an Overnight Process and it's Effects Run Deep
When my own personal rejection was uncovered over 20 years ago, it was seen as an octopus with very thick tentacles that were rooted in my soul. At the time, I was told that the releasing of this rejection would not happen overnight... that it was going to be a spiritual surgical process.
I didn't understand this at the time, but having worked with thousands of men and women in this area over the past 10 years, I now understand why this process is not an overnight one.
Rejection is a subtle beast that, unaddressed, spreads it's effects throughout every area of your life... your relationships, your career, your finances, your health and your spiritual connection.
The longer the rejection has been felt, the deeper it's rooted and the more widespread are the consequences of it's affects.
You may be at a place in your life where you are feeling a need to move past the surface level healing and address things at a soul level. You may even be acknowledging that it's necessary to face the s#!t in your life head on.
It's time for you to identify and acknowledge whether the people, places and things in your life are adding to your joy and peace or subtracting from it.
It's time for you to come face to face with yourself and understand how you are creating your experiences in life.
You CAN be healed and liberated
Let's just be honest about it...
You are connected to some relationships and situations that are not serving your joy, peace or success. You recognize that you need to do some soul searching and shift some things in order to welcome newness in your life. It's time to shed the old in order to replenish your life with newness.
The good news is... Rejection Can Be Released! And I can help you do it.
You deserve the love, the peace, joy, fulfillment, adoration, respect, happiness, connection, and abundance but you are having difficulty accessing it because of the mental and emotional blocks within.
But all of this can be healed if you decide that that's what you want. Decide today to begin and create a life of connection, PowHER and amazing.
If you need help to connect to the Divine aspect of you and the power within, let's talk.
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I am Denika Carothers, Life Coach, author, healer and Mental and Emotional Wellness specialist. I help my clients transcend the pain and trauma of rejection, grief, abandonment, loss and abuse.