Whether out loud, or in the thoughts of your mind, I am certain that this is a question that you have asked at some point in your life.
The truth is that most of us ask this question of life. I know that when I was in my 20's, in a dysfunctional, unhappy marriage and raising my children as a single mother I asked this question often.
Then when my marriage finally ended and my baby sister, who was my best friend, died in a car accident at 29 years old, I felt like my life had exploded from within. This question was at the beginning of my every day and at the end of my every night.
This question begins as a thought and is often connected to real difficulty in life.
If you have ever experienced any of the following, you have asked this question at some point in your life...
Let me explain...
Our relationships are a huge factor in our lives, both our personal and our professional relationships.
Often, when we feel bogged down by life, or in life, our relationships are often either the cause, or neglected and affected in some way.
When our relationships aren't going right, our thoughts tend to be all over the place. And often we don't realize how everything in our life is connected to EVERYTHING in our life.
When it's not going right, we're not thinking right. When we're not thinking right, it's not going right.
But this is the thing...
Whenever you say, or accept, that life is hard what you are essentially doing is coming into agreement with struggle and difficulty taking place in your life.
I know it may sound complicated but it's really pretty simple.
But the thing is that, the difficulty, or "hard" that we feel is often connected to a relationship of some kind.
Some of your relationships will cause you more heartache than joy, more pain than pleasure, more stress than security, and more tears than laughter. These types of relationships are hard and can make your life feel really difficult.
And though these kinds of relationships bring no fulfillment, no amazing, no feelings of connection and no power to you... they can bring power FOR you when you understand their purpose.
Truthfully, these relationships are the most powerful relationships.
Let me explain it a little better in this video.
I am Denika Carothers, Life Coach, author, healer and Mental and Emotional Wellness specialist. I help my clients transcend the pain and trauma of rejection, grief, abandonment, loss and abuse.