Are You Struggling Relationally?
True reconciliation and restoration of a relationship (any relationship) can never take place as long as both parties in the relationship are avoiding facing and addressing the underlying issues.
A relationship never goes wrong on the premise of what one person did. For every action there is a reaction and the actions and reactions of both persons within the relationship is what causes breakdowns and disconnects.
It's important to understand that everyone brings their "stuff" to a relationship.
We see the world, and our relationships through the lens of our experiences, traumas and insecurities in relationships... through our S.H.I.T.
A relationship never goes wrong on the premise of what one person did. For every action there is a reaction and the actions and reactions of both persons within the relationship is what causes breakdowns and disconnects.
It's important to understand that everyone brings their "stuff" to a relationship.
We see the world, and our relationships through the lens of our experiences, traumas and insecurities in relationships... through our S.H.I.T.
Childhood Hurts become Adult Emotional Wounds
Childhood Programming become Adult Perceptions
Childhood Rejections become Adult Low Self-esteem
Childhood Abuse become Adult Fears
Childhood Experiences become Adult Expectations
Childhood Insecurities become an Adults lack of Self-worth
Childhood Programming become Adult Perceptions
Childhood Rejections become Adult Low Self-esteem
Childhood Abuse become Adult Fears
Childhood Experiences become Adult Expectations
Childhood Insecurities become an Adults lack of Self-worth
As adults we are impacted by the traumatic and toxic experiences of our childhood relationships.
Triggers are the result of unhealed emotional wounds.
Unhealed childhood emotions become adulthood dysfunction, disorders and disconnects that show up as dysfunction in our relationships.
Our perception of love is based on what were taught through what we saw when we were children. Our understanding of love and relationships through our childhood eyes is how we tend to show up in our relationships as adults.
Dysfunctional and broken childhood relationship experiences are the foundation of our adult relationships and if not addressed, and healed cause dysfunction and brokenness in our adult relationship experiences.
We are not taught HOW to do relationships. We are shown.
Triggers are the result of unhealed emotional wounds.
Unhealed childhood emotions become adulthood dysfunction, disorders and disconnects that show up as dysfunction in our relationships.
Our perception of love is based on what were taught through what we saw when we were children. Our understanding of love and relationships through our childhood eyes is how we tend to show up in our relationships as adults.
Dysfunctional and broken childhood relationship experiences are the foundation of our adult relationships and if not addressed, and healed cause dysfunction and brokenness in our adult relationship experiences.
We are not taught HOW to do relationships. We are shown.
Learning how to do relationships in a healthy way is key because your relationships are the foundation of your life's journey.
If your experience with your parents and their relationship was not one of connection, love, support and protection you may find it difficult to cultivate harmonious relationships with your own children or partner.
If you have experienced past heartache, disappointment and trauma in your adult relationships you may find that your heart is broken and closed, making it difficult for you to open up and experience true connection in your relationships because being rejected terrifies you.
Discovering the root to your relationship challenges can bring resolve to the challenges you are experiencing in your relationship.
If your experience with your parents and their relationship was not one of connection, love, support and protection you may find it difficult to cultivate harmonious relationships with your own children or partner.
If you have experienced past heartache, disappointment and trauma in your adult relationships you may find that your heart is broken and closed, making it difficult for you to open up and experience true connection in your relationships because being rejected terrifies you.
Discovering the root to your relationship challenges can bring resolve to the challenges you are experiencing in your relationship.
"I don't know where to begin! My husband and I have grown more within the last few months than we ever have. I love that she is not only experienced but highly anointed and articulates her words eloquently! I look forward to continuing with her!" Carmen Martin
What Is Your Problem?
True love for others will not be complete when you are lacking love for yourself.
The desire for a great relationship is not present if you are not willing to do what is necessary to heal. Your responsibility to yourself, in every relationship, is to be the person that you desire to experience within a relationship.
If you want kindness, you have to be kind.
If you want patience, you have to be patient.
If you want understanding, you have to be understanding.
If you want respect, you have to be respectful.
If you want love, you have to be loving.
The blame in relationships usually fall into one of two categories:
I DID IT TO THEM or... THEY DID IT TO ME.
What most people don't understand in relationships is that whatever is done, always affects both people in the relationship. A relationship is not one-sided (even though many try to make it that way).
The success of any relationship takes the willing participation, and effort, of both persons in the relationship.
Throwing blame is never productive to the success of a relationship.
All relationships come with their own set of challenges that can at times leave you with more questions than answers about the condition of the relationship.
Every problem has a solution but you have to be willing to seek out the solution rather than continually perpetuating the problem.
You are here because you are looking for answers. Questions in relationships range from...
How can I fix this relationship?... to Should I stay or is it time to go?
I will help you get clear about what steps you can make to create the type of relationship you desire, what needs to be done to mend the one you are currently in, or decide whether it's time to walk away.
The desire for a great relationship is not present if you are not willing to do what is necessary to heal. Your responsibility to yourself, in every relationship, is to be the person that you desire to experience within a relationship.
If you want kindness, you have to be kind.
If you want patience, you have to be patient.
If you want understanding, you have to be understanding.
If you want respect, you have to be respectful.
If you want love, you have to be loving.
The blame in relationships usually fall into one of two categories:
I DID IT TO THEM or... THEY DID IT TO ME.
What most people don't understand in relationships is that whatever is done, always affects both people in the relationship. A relationship is not one-sided (even though many try to make it that way).
The success of any relationship takes the willing participation, and effort, of both persons in the relationship.
Throwing blame is never productive to the success of a relationship.
All relationships come with their own set of challenges that can at times leave you with more questions than answers about the condition of the relationship.
Every problem has a solution but you have to be willing to seek out the solution rather than continually perpetuating the problem.
You are here because you are looking for answers. Questions in relationships range from...
How can I fix this relationship?... to Should I stay or is it time to go?
I will help you get clear about what steps you can make to create the type of relationship you desire, what needs to be done to mend the one you are currently in, or decide whether it's time to walk away.
If you have questions and are not clear on what steps to take to in your relationship this 30-minute session is designed to help you become clearer on what choices are available to you and how you can take the steps to make the choice that is best for you to bring resolve to your unsettled mind and emotions.
If you are currently aware that something needs to be done or some things need to be done differently in your relationship, but you are unsure about what to do to make it better, this 60-minute session is designed to go deeper into how you got to where you are and diagnose what steps are necessary to become clear on whether your relationship is reparable or irreparable.
"My husband and I have been in the caring hands of Denika since June of this year. We as a newly married couple were faced with a handful of challenges and the greatest of all, getting to know each other. Denika immediately rolled up her sleeves and jumped in the trenches to help us navigate understanding each other and looking at life agreements from a different perspective. She was not just available for our weekly sessions, she became a point of contact for any moment in time that was too heavy for my husband or I to understand or navigate... I couldn't be more happy with our decision to journey this path with Denika and for the growth we have made as a couple. She is one of the best financial and life investments we have made as a married couple." Angela Ward
"Denika Carothers is a beautiful spirit! I had a Wellness Day for my daughter and a few other young adults who deal with anxiety or depression. If you’re looking for A life-changing moment call Denika. Therapy did not work for my daughter or myself but life coaching with Denika just in one days time simply changed our lives for the better. She taps into the root of your problem and gives you some guidance on how to approach whatever is ailing in your life!" Kim Hill
