What Season of S.H.I.T. Are You In?

​Let’s be real: none of us escape life without S.H.I.T.—Shame, Hurt, Insecurities, and Triggers.

​And here’s the truth: most of that S.H.I.T. doesn’t even start with you.
It begins in childhood.

The relationships we are born into—parents, caregivers, siblings—plant the earliest seeds. Their wounds, their words, and their ways of relating to us become the soil from which our own S.H.I.T. grows. As we step into adulthood, romantic partners, friendships, and even workplace dynamics add more layers. The S.H.I.T. we don’t deal with in one season gets carried into the next, until we finally learn how to release it.

So, what season of S.H.I.T. are YOU in?

In Your 20’s: You’re Feeling the S.H.I.T. 

This is when the S.H.I.T. from your upbringing collides with the realities of adult life. The rejection you felt as a child shows up in dating. The insecurities you carried from comparison or criticism resurface in friendships. The shame you picked up from parents or teachers weighs heavy as you try to figure out who you are. In your 20’s, you’re feeling the S.H.I.T.—sometimes without even realizing that it didn’t start with you.

In Your 30’s: You’re Figuring Out the S.H.I.T.

By now, you’ve noticed patterns: you keep attracting the same kind of partners, replaying the same arguments, or feeling the same insecurities. This is when you start tracing the S.H.I.T. back to its roots. You realize that what your father said, or how your mother treated you, or the heartbreaks you endured left imprints that shaped your choices. In your 30’s, you begin sorting through the S.H.I.T.—deciding what’s yours to carry and what you need to finally let go.

In Your 40’s: You Don’t Give a S.H.I.T.

Here, you’ve done enough inner work to recognize that carrying everyone else’s S.H.I.T. doesn’t serve you. You stop bending over backward to please people. You stop chasing approval. You stop staying in relationships that drain you. The relationships that once triggered you no longer have the same power, because you’ve started reclaiming your own voice and worth.

In Your 50’s: You Don’t Give a Fuck About the S.H.I.T.

At this stage, you’re too seasoned to keep repeating cycles. You know the price of holding on to old S.H.I.T.—it costs your peace, joy, and health. You’ve learned the beauty of release. Childhood wounds, failed marriages, broken friendships—they may have shaped you, but they don’t define you. You walk with more freedom because you’ve stopped giving your energy to S.H.I.T. that doesn’t matter.

In Your 60’s and Beyond: S.H.I.T. Doesn’t Matter

By the time you reach this season, you understand life differently. The relationships that once wounded you no longer have power. You’ve made peace with your story. You’ve healed enough to know that love, laughter, connection, and peace are what truly matter. The S.H.I.T. fades into the background, and wisdom takes the lead.

The Truth About S.H.I.T.

S.H.I.T. comes into your life through relationships—those that nurtured you and those that hurt you. Some of it isn’t yours, but you’ve carried it as if it was.

The good news? You don’t have to keep carrying it.

Every season gives you a chance to release another layer and step into more freedom. The choice is yours: will you keep repeating the cycles of S.H.I.T. that began in childhood and adulthood relationships, or will you finally let the S.H.I.T. go?

Because your healing, your peace, and your power are waiting on the other side.

Soul Reflections: What S.H.I.T. Are You Carrying?

Take a moment to pause, breathe, and reflect on these questions:

1. What S.H.I.T. (Shame, Hurt, Insecurities, Triggers) from childhood relationships are you still carrying into your adult life?
2. How has the S.H.I.T. from past relationships—family, romantic, or friendships—shaped the way you see yourself today?
3. When you think about your current season, what S.H.I.T. feels hardest to release?
4. How is holding on to this S.H.I.T. costing you peace, joy, love, or freedom in your present life?
5. What would it look and feel like if you finally let this S.H.I.T. go?

Your answers are a mirror of where you are right now—an invitation to see what’s been hidden and to choose a new way forward.

And here’s the truth: you don’t have to work through the S.H.I.T. alone. This is the work I was called to do—helping you identify, release, and heal from the S.H.I.T. that has been weighing you down, so you can step into the freedom and wholeness you deserve.

👉 If you’re ready to release your S.H.I.T. and step into your next season of freedom, I invite you to book a complimentary Emotional Elevation Call with me today <<---- 

Your season of healing starts now.