Self-Worth vs. Self-Value

Let’s get something straight, right here and now:
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Just because you say you know your worth doesn’t mean you’re living like it.

And that’s the part we don’t talk about enough.

You can be powerful, wise, intuitive, and deeply spiritual—but still shrink yourself in relationships, betray your own needs, and settle for less than you deserve.

Not because you don’t know your worth…

But because you haven’t yet activated your self-value.

​Let’s break it down.

​Self-Worth Is the Belief. Self-Value Is the Behavior.

 
Self-Worth is internal.

It’s how you feel about yourself at your core. It’s that deep, soul-level truth that says, “I am enough, just because I exist.”
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You don’t have to earn it.
You don’t have to prove it.
You don’t have to hustle for it.
You’re worthy because you are. Period.

BUT…

You can know this in your mind and still live like you don’t believe it in your body, your choices, or your relationships.

Self-Value is external.

It’s how you act on your worth. It’s the decisions you make, the standards you keep, the boundaries you set, and the energy you allow.
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Self-value says:

• Because I know I’m worthy, I won’t stay where I’m dishonored.
• Because I believe I matter, I won’t abandon myself to keep others comfortable.
• Because I value my peace, I will not entertain what disrupts it.

​You Can Have High Self-Worth and Low Self-Value

Yes, you read that right. You can believe you’re a queen… and still let people treat you like a convenience.

You can say you’re enough… but stay in spaces where you’re only tolerated, not celebrated.

​You can affirm your worth all day… and still not follow through when it’s time to choose YOU.

Why?

​Because knowing something and living it are two different things.

​How This Shows Up in Relationships

​Here’s where it gets real:
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• If you struggle to say no, even when it’s costing you peace—you might not be valuing yourself.
• If you stay in toxic or emotionally unavailable relationships hoping they’ll change—you might believe you’re worthy, but you’re not honoring that belief through action.
• If you constantly doubt yourself, apologize for your needs, or over-give to feel safe—you’re not walking in the alignment of self-worth + self-value.

And in your relationship with yourself?

Ignoring your intuition.
Breaking promises to yourself.
Putting everyone else first while running on empty.

​That’s a sign that your self-value needs healing.

​The Shift Happens When You Align the Two

​When your self-worth and self-value align, everything changes.
You start making choices that match what you believe about yourself.

• ​You stop shrinking and start rising.
• You stop tolerating and start thriving.
• You stop overexplaining and start walking away—peacefully and powerfully.
• You become unshakable—not because life doesn’t test you, but because you know how to stand in your truth and act like it.

​You Always Have a Choice

​​That’s the whole point of Empowered C.H.O.I.C.E.S.

That’s the energy behind Let the S.H.I.T. Go™

That's the drive behind RECLAIMing Your Power.

That’s the healing that changes everything.

You may not have chosen what hurt you, but you can choose how you heal.

You can choose to walk differently.
You can choose to live in alignment.
You can choose to stop settling and start rising.

Because self-worth without self-value is just potential. But when you choose both?

​That’s POWER. That’s FREEDOM. That’s YOU, becoming HER.

​Ready to Align Your Worth and Value?

​Let’s talk.

Book your complimentary Emotional Elevation Call and let’s shift what’s been holding you back.

You don’t have to keep living in the gap between what you know and how you live.

You get to choose something greater—starting now.

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