Are you suffering from a broken heart? I have heard this term ever since I was a young girl. When you hear of a “broken heart” it is usually connected to someone suffering from the emotional pain of a broken relationship. If you are like me, you know what a broken heart feels like. But did you know that there is literally a medical term that is used to describe how the heart reacts to stress hormones during traumatic and stressful situations such as a failed relationship.
However, choosing not to face emotional trauma head on does not eradicate it or make it go away. The way I explain it is like a closet. You continually stuff items in to the closet and eventually you have a bunch of stuff piled up in there. In most cases, you don’t even remember what you put into the closet. You don’t take the time to clear or what you no longer need or no longer serves you, but you continue to throw things into the closet. Eventually the closet will become so filled that the stuff may start putting a strain on the door. Once the door is opened unexpectedly, all of the “stuff” comes falling out. So it is with our emotions… when we choose to suppress our emotions, something usually shows up unexpectedly that causes all of our “stuff” to come pouring out.
The “stuff” falling out can manifest in the form of a physical disease in our body. Negative mental states weaken correlating areas of your body and by the time you see manifested symptoms, the state of being has been held for quite some time. So the heart organ can become affected, because of the impact on your heart chakra on an emotional and spiritual level.
If you are experiencing a broken heart, don’t pass it off as something that will eventually go away. Don’t ignore the pain. Allow yourself to feel it. Many choose to deal with emotional trauma by attempting to mask it. Their mask of choice could be denial, alcohol, drugs or becoming involved in another relationship.
The best way to deal with the pain is to face it head on. When you try to avoid the pain, you actually prolong the suffering. By allowing yourself to introspect, acknowledge and allow your feelings, you are able to move through it rather than around it. You would not try to distract yourself from a broken arm would you? No! Even though you may be frightened, you would seek to have it mended quickly, because you know choosing to NOT deal with it, will affect you greatly in the long run. Yes the thought of going inside and “dealing with it”, may be scary, but the truth is that “time” itself does not heal all wounds.
This is a lie that we have heard throughout our lives, that convinces us to just ignore pain and carry on. Pain does not just go away. First the symptom of pain must be acknowledged. The root of the pain needs to be discovered and diagnosed, and finally the treatment to cure the issue must begin. Choosing to acknowledge it, face it head on and diving into it, can provide you with true freedom from the pain.
As long as you live beyond one day of life, you can be sure that you will suffer some form of pain. Pain is inevitable however suffering is preventable and can be avoided if we are willing to allow ourselves to collapse fully into how we truly feel. Personally I become very bothered when I hear people saying this “don’t cry.” I say CRY, scream holler… don’t be ashamed if that’s how you really feel. Remember you have to OWN it to disown it! You have to FEEL it to HEAL it!
I believe that pain was created to get our attention, for it is only when we feel pain that we realize that something is wrong, which then gives us the opportunity to correct the issue. Even though we can be tempted to go into victim mode when we experience pain, the truth is that this mode will never empower you or give you the release of pain you need. Repeating the story over and over in your head does not benefit you, especially if the story is not one that is 100% true. The truth is that most “head stories” have a large degree of assumption and very little truth attached to them. They are mostly one-sided and don’t take into account the entire bigger picture.
Use your pain as a chance to evolve and grow, rather than allowing it to be an obstacle. Ask yourself the question “What is this pain here to show me about myself?” Remember, sometimes personal breakthroughs come as a result of a personal breakdown. The victory in the healing process is to understand that every experience comes to teach you very specific lessons. So take something positive from every experience and use it to improve yourself as a person. Remember, you can’t effect change in anyone else. So put your energy where the improvement can be made… within.
Ready to own your stuff but don’t know how to do it on your own? Connect with me today and let me help you help yourself.
BE Love, BE Power!
I am a lover of life and a lover of people. When we learn to connect in our heart space, love will be the driving force behind all we do. BE Love, BE Power!